Non Violent Communication – Speaking From the Heart

DESCRIPTION

The main difficulty in interpersonal communication is due to our natural physiological tendency to look first outward and not inward. Our eyes, that look outwards, see the other as responsible for our personal difficulties. When our desires and needs are not met, we tend to judge the other, criticize and blame. This criticism causes the other to get offended, and to get into the “fight, flight or freeze” mechanism. Tragically, this creates a negative cycle that makes it difficult for us to fulfill our needs. Tragically even more, as a society, our current habitual way of thinking of: right/ wrong, should/ shouldn’t, good/ evil, makes it even harder for us to behave in a different way.

The model of Non-violent communication (NVC), developed by Dr. Marshal Rosenberg in the 1960’s, succeeds in addressing the difficulty of human beings to understand and communicate with each other in a constructive way.

During the course of the week you will:

• Shift the focus from the other to yourself, get familiar and tune to your feelings and needs, without “involving” the other. By doing this, the automatic, habitual criticism will be replaced with understanding and empathy to yourself and to the other.

• Learn how to communicate your feelings and needs to the other, in a way that would fulfill your needs in effective, easy and joyful way.

This course provides tools for making a deep connection and compassion in your daily lives. It is highly recommended for individuals and couples, seeking better ways of understanding, communicating and fulfilling themselves, and is extremely important for people living in communities, who wish to solve conflicts in a peaceful way.

What will you get from this course?

• Connecting to yourself and understanding what underlies your behavior.

• Freeing yourself from restraints and barriers that prevent you from realizing yourself.

• Transforming automatic actions, based on fear and anxiety, into conscious and beneficial behavior.

• Clarity about your needs and how to fulfill them.

• Getting tools for effective communication.

• A real change in interpersonal relationships.

Daily schedule:

7:15 – 8:15 Meditation

8:30 – 9:45 Qigong (Tao yoga)

10:00 Breakfast

11:00 – 13:30 NVC morning session

16:00 – 18:30 NVC afternoon session

18:30 Dinner

Curriculum:

Day 1

AM Introduction.

PM “Everything we do, we do to meet a need”.

Day 2

AM Our habitual mind.

Transferring judgments into needs.

PM Connecting to feelings – our life sensors.

Day 3

AM Living with needs awareness.

Needs never collide – strategies do.

PM Shifting toward compassion:

Understanding and empathizing with the other.

Day 4

AM Hidden judgments.

Pseudo feelings.

PM Observations.

Distinguishing Evaluations and Judgments

Day 5

AM What is empathy and what is not?

PM Listening with empathy.

Day 6

AM Slowing down.

Working with anger.

PM Empathy sessions in couples.

Day 7

AM Requests.

Willing to hear “no”.

PM Saying “no” with compassion.

Day 8

AM Self-empathy.

Being our own best friends.

Morning flow:

The way (Tao) of Taichi, Qigong and Taoist meditation focuses on effortless-effort, which is align with NVC’s concept of getting rid of our habitual “should-shouldn’t” thoughts.

Doing these body-practices daily in the routine of the course, will keep your awareness within and connect you to the power of love, which is the highest form of energy. This, will strengthen your ability to be compassionate and loving toward yourself and others, as we practice in Non-violent-communication.

Taoist meditation:

Greet the day by a daily meditation, balancing your energy centers, calming your body, quieting your emotions and purifying your mind.

Taichi ☯️ Qigong:

Nourish yourself by moving with intention and opening to the loving energy of the universe .

The sequenced body mantras of Qi Gong (Qi = energy, gong = practice) cultivate a flow of vital energy and a sense of weightlessness, love and joy.

Qi gong and Taichi are part of the traditional Chinese medicine, regarded as self-healing bodywork. Practicing these holistic exercises will strengthen and flex your body, release energetic blockages, balance your emotions, and will cleanse and quiet your mind.

instructor(s)/teaching organization bio(s)

Ariel Mayrose

Ariel is an emotional therapist and energetic healer, specializing in Non-violent communication and the Way of the Tao. Ariel is a facilitator of courses, workshops and practice group of Non-violent communication, certificated from New York Center of Non-Violent Communication (NYCNVC).

Ariel is an instructor and mentor of Qi gong (Taoist yoga) and Taoist meditations, a facilitator of Taoist and mindfulness workshops, courses and retreats, and a lecturer in communication departments in colleges and universities since 2010.

course start and ARRIVAl dates

The class begins at 7.15 a.m. on July 3.  The night before the class begins, July 2, is included in the cost of the class.  You must arrive before 6.30pm the night before, we will not be able to attend you after this time.

course end and departure dates

The last day of the class is July 10.  The night of July 9 is included in the cost of the class and students will need to head out after the last session finishes on July 10 at 13.30.

Tuition

US $650 (includes all food, lodging and course instruction)